The delight of the real

Rather than mushrooms / psilocybin, I’m going to use LSD for my next therapy session.

LSD is cheaper and easier to obtain, but also more deeply affecting even at the equivalent dose, and much longer lasting (up to 12 hours, rather than 4-6) – which makes it a bit less tractable as a psychedelic of choice. I’ve a full day slated for it, rather than a few hours. We’ll see how it goes.

Having never taken LSD in my life, I thought it prudent to take a small sample dose when I first obtained it, to get a feel for the drug. I feel quite confident with psychedelics now (I have a rough idea of the terrain, as it were); using the internationally recognised alcohol inebriation equivalence scale, I’d say I took enough to get me ‘a bit tipsy’.

This is a slice of my experience of that small, 100ug dose. At this dose there was a slight degree of visual distortion (irridescence and ‘breathing’), but only noticable when I paid attention. It was a light, clear, and pleasant experience, albeit one which came with a bit of a headache.

The Delight of the Real

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting —
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

-Mary Oliver, ‘Wild Geese’

 
It comes on unexpectedly, suddenly; subtly

Sat in the front room, an hour after dosing, wondering if I’m going to feel anything at all.

It comes on with a laugh; surprise, delight, escaping from my heart my throat my mouth, into the air into the room, bouncing briefly from the walls, the bookshelf, the houseplants the windows.

The world suddenly a delight. And nothing changed yet everything new, everything shining. Everything singing.

It had always shone. It had always been singing. But only now, only now with surprise and delight, I noticed; only now did I notice again.


conkers

I remember – I would have been 4 – being in a park with my family, autumn. I remember leaf mould, and yellow brown and red leaves on the ground, I remember conkers – conkers!, big and bold, opulent.

But no, no I don’t remember leaf mould and autumn leaves and conkers, these are words and ideas, all greased with ghosts and memories, but THIS, I remember THIS, the bold, beautiful THISNESS of the world, primary colours and rich textures and a world both open and endless and yet somehow also enfolding and intimate. In this memory, the world shines. It sings.


I laugh, brief; a burst of surprise, the shock of the new. Sunlight pours through the bay windows and sets the green and white of the spider plant alight; the warm wood floor calls out, lines and whorls, stretching luxurious across the room. The room… the room! Here all the time yet somehow never before met. Another laugh, another burst of wonder, the old white paint of the walls, the crack running across the ceiling, this tiny slice of the universe, shining and living and being, and me just another part of it, no more lost or precious than the spiderweb by the doorframe, the knot of cables by the television, the houseplant, on fire, by the window.

I am no longer the centre of my universe, and I have no way of telling you how blessed a feeling this is.

Eager, I lace up my trainers – trainers! Laces! Green and black and blue, playful fabric threads folded over and under, The THISNESS of them sparkles, not laces but fabric threads, rough-soft to touch, that can be woven this way and that and turned on themselves just so, to keep soft rubber bound to my feet. Trainers! Laces!

Eager, I lace up my trainers and head to the park, 30 seconds walk from my front door.

And the SKY…

The SKY

The wheeling of gulls in the unbounded SKY, the light playing, playing on the lake. The people, the trees, the ducks pattering about on the paving. I stand delighted, the horizon rising up into the distant hills, the city beyond, the clouds, the sun, the SKY, this gorgeous opulent world, and all of it singing, singing as it always is and has been.

The breeze – the joy of the wind, the way the air itself can dance, can pull you along too, calling let’s play, let’s play, lets dance for the joy of yet another gifted day! – the breeze whirls around me and, embraced by the endless open world, I am no longer the centre of my universe.

I have no way of telling you how blessed a feeling this is.

Because I no longer matter. Because the world is bold, and gorgeous, opulent and glorious and absurd, and has no need of me. This universe will carry on in glory long after I am gone, just as it did long before I or any other human soul was born.

For the first time in a very, very long time, I am meeting the world honestly, on it’s own terms, and far from my human world or words; far from the space where everything is turned however subtly into a story about myself.

The universe is the universe, on it’s own terms, and is infinitely complex and varied, from the laces on my trainers and the knot of cables by the television, to the flight of geese against the glory of the sky. I do not matter.

I can breathe easy. I do not matter.

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At the boiling edge of the Big Bang (psychedelic session II)

After my November psychedelics session led to such a rapid and profound positive change in me, I resolved to take a session once every 2-3 months for a year. I did this because I’m aware the research indicates that relapses sometimes occur 3-6 months in, and indeed, after failing to follow through on my plan, I relapsed about 6 months later.

Fortunately, while it was a vicious and dangerous fall, after 6 weeks it resolved as quickly as it had arrived. While being able to climb out of the hole myself (somehow?) was an excellent lesson in how far I’ve come, the experience did drive home to me that I’d possibly become a little negligent in looking after my psyche. I re-committed to sourcing some psychedelic mushrooms and having another session.

Brilliantly, this time I found a friend willing to sit with me for the experience. Having a sitter meant I was much more comfortable completely letting myself go. While ultimately I don’t think the dose was as high as I’d hoped (consistency is always going to be a problem with organics), it was still a very moving experience, and worthwhile. I won’t be leaving it so long next time and hopefully relapses are now something in the past.

Here is the trip…


At the boiling edge of the Big Bang

At first, the garden. Unfurling and unfolding, up and out and embracing, green and purple and the gold of dawn. At first the garden, embracing. It’s beautiful, and sacred.

At first, the garden. At first the dawn, singing, and the light is gold – oh, oh the light! The light is gold, can you see? Can you see the joy the splendour, the wonder, can you…

into the roots, into the earth, into the aching unspeaking earth; into the cool and the dark and the secret spaces inbetween, the well of all our sorrows, the source of all

this

heartache and

a g o n y and

then

Oh can you see the first light of dawn! The pale horizon, the dark and the joy and the water earth and sky, and these deep roots and sorrow, the heartache, and

Oh, the dawn! Oh the clear gold dawn, the joy of dawn, sacred gift of dawn, and the garden, at first, at first the garden.

After the garden, the ocean, the beauty, oh the infinite swell of beauty, of sorrow and pain and love, oh the fall and rise, drowning in the embrace and release of agonising beauty. Fathomless and silent, heartbreaking and healing, incomprehensible, I let go, I let go, let go and fall into grace, into agony, into grace.

And I am stars spread out across the galaxy, I am galaxies spread out across the universe, like grains of sand in the fathomless deep, I am, am no more, Sprawled on this bed this body, us all of us, all us bodies and stars and sand, dancing slow and furious at the boiling edge of the Big Bang, all, everything, oh oh oh everything, can you see, oh can you see the stardust, the all, the love the goddamn furious LOVE of it all, burning into sorrow and grief and the goddamn LOVE of it all, oh tell me can you see, can you see what this Universe is, what we are, the howling glory of the real?

The goddamn furious LOVE of it all, powerful as root through rock as ice breaking stone, relentless, the tree of life cracking open the deep earth ascending unstoppable to the endless sky, surging, the goddamn furious LOVE of it all, holding me, mum holding me, a young woman, long hair, fresh faced, I curl up on the bed and curl up in her arms and relentless, furious LOVE surges forth, upward forever upward and and oh no, no no and oh no, mum falling away, time takes all from us in the end, mum falling away into the fathomless black below and I am dragged relentlessly on and

I

H O W L, I

claw at my eyes, clutch my chest, rock, no no no, not this not this relentless, unstoppable force, the boiling edge of the Big Bang taking me forever further from her, from the people I love, lost to the dark and the fathomless deep and me dragged on up and onward into the endless sky, this sheer fury of love and heartache, the agony of grace, the sheer unstoppable beauty of it all,

Nothing is ever lost.

All we have is this moment, all we are is this moment, this boiling fury at the edge of the Big Bang, nothing is ever created or destroyed, but all is in constant transformation; and underlying it all is this love, this torrential ecstasy of love, no thing is ever lost

I

H O W L

in agony and understanding, stripped of my skin and my breath and everything I thought was my soul, I fall away, into the fathomless black, and eternity surges on, relentless, at the boiling edge of the Big Bang.

And it’s so simple, so bright and starry-eyed simple, I laugh, and the laughter is rain on water.


Sit up, pull off the eye mask and headphones. My sitter looks up, smiles

‘I think… lets go look at the stars’

‘OK’

I don’t move. Sit on the edge of the bed, staring into infinitely colliding space.

‘It’s… I wish…’

I want to tell him I wish he could feel how I feel, wish he could know, know at a fundamental and wordless level how much relentless love infuses the structure of reality, but I know the words will be hopeless, meaningless, overblown and cheap. My hands dance in front of me, trying to grasp the meaning which infuses the world. I wish you knew what a glory it is to be alive.

‘You… me… all of it, everything… we live thinking we exist, we’re seperate… we need to, to survive as animals, to make this delusion that there’s this me, and once there’s a me there’s a mine, there’s grasping, there’s fear, gain and loss, we put up walls, but none of it… it’s a delusion, we’re all part of the same… there’s no me and you and this and that it’s all, we’re all… but it’s not right to say part of the same thing, there’s no parts, there’s no thing… it just is… it just…’ my hands flap, fail to grasp the meaning infusing all creation. I sigh, stare into infinitely colliding space.

‘You can’t pour the Universe into words’

We leave the room to go outside, lie in the dewy grass and gaze up at the soft velvet midsummer sky; the Universe gazes back.

‘Hello you. Hello me’

The air hangs heavy with the night flowers of the garden, green and purple and gold; out here at the boiling edge of the Big Bang.


Notes on music:

Because I arranged the playlist myself, I can point to the peices of music which induced the component parts of this trip. They are:

…at first, the garden: Henryk Górecki – Symphony number 3

…the ocean: Greg Haines – 183 Times

…and I am stars: Moby – God Moving on the Face of the Waters

…the goddamn furious LOVE of it all: Greg Haines – So it Goes

Holding on to breath

It’s a strange place, inside my soul right now.

Every recently day I’ve had moments – hours – where I’ve been so blue I’m black. Mostly, I try to sleep. Sometimes, I do things that are a clear danger sign. But I’ve people visiting from today until next week, so I’m safe now.

There’s nothing new in that. I’ve made attempts before, landed in hospital before. This time there’s a brutal grinding quality to it – I think born from exhaustion, the way this wears to you down after so many years. I’m just tired of it now. So this is far from new; it’s old, and worn; begging to be broken.

But there’s something else, this time.

I broke through it before. I know I broke through it. I remember how it’s shaped, I remember the words I used to describe it and while I knew they were imperfect they were also the best words I had to contain it.

I spoke with one of the ordained Buddhists at the centre a few weeks ago. I told her that in all my depression and grief I was so scared because I was falling apart and my life was falling apart and then… then I realised it was always, forever falling apart; there’s nothing to hold on to; all the suffering comes from trying to put together the pieces of a perfect life, in ignorance thinking that life is something you could ever grasp. That we could ever hold on to breath.

I told her I realised I was standing firm on ever-changing chaos. Everyone is. And there was joy in the peace of it, the realisation of it.

And now in this black and crushing space I still have all those words but they’re broken containers, most of the meaning spilled out and sunk to the earth.

It’s a strange place inside my soul right now. Like being kicked out of the garden.


Although it is bright, there are no objects of illumination

The Discourse Record of Chan Master Hongzhi

It came after the psychedelics. Buddhism prepared the soil and nurtured it afterwards, but the revelation came from psychedelics.

Psychedelics provide something of an afterglow effect for 4-6 weeks after the dose, but this breakthrough rolled on long after that, and if anything it grew deeper, more textured, richer. I guess I just have deep wounds, still prone to opening up and swallowing me.

I can’t afford any more shrooms right now. Anyway, I can’t take any while I’m this deep black, and I’d prefer to have someone with me when I do… all these things mean it’s a tricky solution for me and not something I can reach for immediately.

So I’m caught in this strange dark space, remembering only vaguely the shape of something so much greater, so open, something as invisible and bright as light in a void. Often – when I’m at my deepest – it all seems like a lie I’m telling myself to comfort my blistering sense of failure and shame, regret and loss. Why would I want to return to a lie? My life is, materially, a fucking mess; and it’s getting worse. Have you any idea how strong that siren song is that draws me to jagged rocks? I could finally leave behind all this failure and shame, regret and loss. My life is, materially, a fucking mess; and it’s getting worse.

I don’t want to swim forever – I don’t want to fight the tide

I don’t want to swim the ocean – when it’s cold I’d like to die

Moby

Friends tell me that it won’t always be this way, that things will get better. They don’t get it; this isn’t a fight between pessimism and optimism, but a fight between reality and fantasy. The only winning move is acceptance.

Acceptance is a hard move. But ultimately it’s the only one open to us, other than quitting the game. And I know this. I have the shape of it in my mind but it’s far away, and murky, and unbelievable. From here it looks not just hard but impossible, and the rocks are so much nearer, so solid, so simple. The sirens are singing, and all I have to fight against them is love, and the shape of something forgotten.


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On recovery

Just because you sometimes fall, doesn’t mean you can’t run.

And I can still run, if I want. And walk and saunter and stand, and sit and talk and watch the wild world go by. But there’s a break in my soul which imperfectly healed. It’s this spot – this spot right here – and if it gets knocked or pulled, or sometimes I guess just when the weather is wrong, the break opens up to a gash, to a wound, to a mouth twisted and contorted and I fall in and fall and am swallowed.

It’s just a break, imperfectly healed. I can still run, if I want.


Despite the meltdown the other week, or the few days I’ve had recently where my world has turned thick black, I still don’t think I’m ill, or getting ill again.

Recovery for me has meant an expansion of the world – inner and outer. While I’m episodic the world is extremes; pointless, despairing and hateful. My life is ruined, I am broken, a failure, useless. Eventually there is only this one cruel nameless, formless thing, incalculably huge and incoherent, and inside it I thrash and howl and claw – or exhausted simply lie, and stare, and breathe ghostly shallow breaths.

But the world isn’t this one thing; the world is countless fleeting forms, blossoming and burning and falling to ash. In its entirety it beats and breathes and pulses and sleeps, and roars, and weeps. Now, the regrets I hold are held gently in my heart; along with compassion, gratitude, sorrow and hope and grief and love and all the other colours of the soul. This is recovery for me – this being able to feel the bruises inside me without being brought down by the pain, being able to reach out and touch the world and hold its countless imperfections and understand that this is enough.

The scar is still there – the monster, the devil of depression, the endless empty space inside into which I still can fall. And though it’s only a sliver of space inside my soul, when I’m in there it’s once again this huge wordless thing, impossible and furious, and I’m lost for moments, for days, for my own forever.

But it is only a sliver of space inside my soul, an imperfectly healed break. Around it there’s a vastness matched only by the wide wild world outside. Some days, I fall; but I can now run, out into that vastness. This for me is recovery. This for me is health.


 

How?

 

What happened?

I think there’s three potential reasons, and they probably all interlock a little.

The first is that I’d been more or less ill a long time, and had got very ill through a series of stumbling steps into the dark. While I knew I was ill, I didn’t know quite how seriously ill I was (a lot of psychiatric patients have the same problem). It’s one thing to know you’re lost, it’s a very different thing to know exactly how lost you are. However, I had been blundering around in the psychic dark for a long time and there’s a chance I was making some kind of stumbling progress on my own, back toward the entrance of the cave; the crack in my world where the light still came in.

The second, obviously, is the psychedelics. Although I started ‘seriously toying’ with them in late 2015 and have taken three large doses, it was only in the latest dose that I had ironed out all the environmental quirks which distracted me from becoming truly absorbed in the state. That was the dose I took in November 2017.

Psychedelics literally break open the brain’s habitual activation patternspatterns which in depression have become so powerful and consuming they prevent the exploration of new possibilities. This creative chaos floods the mind and restructures the internal landscape so that hitherto unseen emotional, behavioural and cognitive vistas open up.

The third is Buddhism – which I started working with a lot more after the November 2017 trip. When people talk about Buddhism in a therapeutic context it’s often with a nod to mindfulness, and while mindfulness is a very important foundation (for reasons I might go into in a later post), the most surprisingly important aspect – for me – has been the emphasis on wise speech. This includes a warning against cruel speech, an emphasis on compassionate speech and – crucially – a commitment to accuracy.

That latter might sound irrelevant but it’s not; in working toward it I’ve noticed it actually gels with parts of CBT (the therapy kind, not the Vauxhall kind [NSFW link]). I caught myself saying I hate living in Sheffield. I have to move in two years or I’ll go completely fucking mad. Which is just… not true. Living here isn’t ideal, and wouldn’t be my first choice. But there’s some real benefits to it as well as the real pains. The world isn’t ideal, but it also isn’t ghastly. Catching my catastrophic framing of it and working it into a more nuanced perspective has been important in stretching my horizons, opening up calmer spaces inside.


Witold Pruszkowski - Falling Star

Witold Pruszkowski – Falling Star

I’ll fall again, probably. I’m currently unemployed and skint, and scared for my future; it’s a tough course, right now. When I fall it will feel – to me – that I’ve never been able to run, that I’ve always been in the dark; it will be dangerous, and I will need to be kept safe from harm.

But I genuinely don’t think I’m ‘ill’ right now. I think falling is just what happens sometimes to people like me, us with imperfectly healed breaks. Just like sometimes you stop and gasp, caught on the memory of someone loved and long gone, and sob, and sob. Life hurts sometimes. That doesn’t means it’s not also still beautiful.


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Better

So I’m better.

Somehow solid again, more real. Somehow my feet planted firmly on the ground.

I don’t know how I got here. There was and is meditation, and psychedelics, but they all came as I was settling down anyway. Maybe they’ve kept me here, where better is. Maybe I would be fine without them.

I’m better.

I’m better and I look back on 2017, and it’s white noise, or a picture I can’t quite focus. A person I can’t quite remember being, tho I remember the things he thought and the things he did.

I’m better, and for the very first time I feel like I’m not just better, but wiser. More sure footed. I don’t know how I got here. Maybe it’s the meditation, maybe it’s the psychedelics.

I have regrets, you know? All these regrets, for how my life has turned out and the endless list of mistakes I’ve made. Frustration at not being where I’d hoped, the usual self recrimination and grief. Anger a how my mental health has disrupted and distorted my life, left me living far from friends and the city I loved and used to call home.

But so what? That’s life, and life is sad sometimes. That’s OK.

I have so many friends, and a loving family, and I’m healthy enough that I can go walk in the world, and feel the cold air on my skin, and breathe. And in that moment, there’s peace.

None of these things will last, and we have only a few heartbeats to call our own in this world. Life is sad sometimes, because life is loss. That’s OK. In this moment, there’s peace.

I’ve tried to kill myself. 3 times. I must have hurt so much, I must have been so lost and so afraid and felt so alone. Maybe I’ll try again, if I ever again get that lost and afraid and alone. I hope not. No one should ever feel that bad. I can’t imagine. I literally can’t imagine how it must feel.

The rain lashed down all night last night, hammering on my windows and keeping me awake. By morning, the exhausted sky was slate gray, and white water blue, ghostly. Starlings chattered in the park, gulls swept overhead.

The world is astonishing. I can’t imagine ever wanting to leave.

Witold Pruszkowski - Falling Star

We all are Falling Through Silent Liquid Space

Preamble

My 2017 episode has resolved – and for once I think I’ve come out of the storm substantially stronger and wiser, and more able to navigate the seas. It was incredibly close at points – steps were taken with more than one suicide plan, and I probably should have been sectioned again but I managed to hide the depths of my despair well enough from medical staff and therapists. I was held through it by some incredible friends who were literally my lifeline throughout, and after months of depression by turns furious and hot, and empty lonely and cold, I finally found myself back on dry land in September.

Now, it all seems a crazy dream from somebody else’s head. Strange, to think I thought the things I thought, that I did the things I did.

I put this stability down to two things: Buddhism and psychedelics. Buddhism is an every day thing; psychedelics is a once a blue moon thing. One of the reasons for this is that psychedelic experiences are psychically exhausting; while they’re incredibly beneficial in ways I’ll never be able to articulate, they’re also intense in a way I’ll never be able to articulate.

I’m kind-of due another session, which reminded me that after the last one I’d written down this. The trip involved far more than is given in this, and probably far more than I remember, but this was the most intense… episode? Vision? Experience?

Anyway; here it is. It’s a bit muddled, but these things tend to be, and a bit hyperbolic, but, again, these things tend to be. Like I say – psychically intense.


I am falling

I am falling, we all are falling, through silent liquid space.

I am falling, we all are falling, through silent hallowed space.

This is not how it begins.

It begins with grief.


No, no not grief! My body wreaks up, hands claw my chest, mouth agape, no don’t go there, don’t go to death, the cold end of it all; the fear of my parents becoming one day only memories; I see the body, the coffin, the red red earth and roots and the cold cold hammer of loss, no don’t go there don’t go there, not to loss and regret over all the words left unsaid, I love you I love you I wish you knew how much, don’t go, don’t be lost, lost to the cold and the dark and the red red earth.

The horror of life is that in the end we lose everything we love, this horror comes it’s cold, rips through me makes me hollow my mouth agape I fall into black into nothing into silence.

I am falling.

I am falling.

I am falling now forever through silent liquid space.

Falling through water, falling through stars, falling soft and safe through silent sacred space.

Through dark red space.

Through blood red space.

I quake, jolt up again, rock up into a foetal pose, arms curled around my chest, holding a newborn in blood red space, and this love this love it is fierce, it is wild and it howls, it howls, and it will break me apart it is breaking me apart in agony and exultation and the blood red lust of this world for life, for life, for life. I hold a newborn close furiously close I love you I love you I love you, you will never know you will never know how much, this love this love this love,

I sob, body shakes tears burst from clenched eyes I rock I shake I sob, no no no you don’t understand I whisper, you don’t understand this pain this blood red agony, this howl is a howl of love, I quake, the love of life for life, 

I sob

gasp.

Fall back.

We all are falling.

Ice cracks and thaws and cold crystal water begins to flow in channels, babbling and bubbling between still-frozen blocks, and as they thaw, as they thaw, this love trickles into all, into all the frosty walls we build between us, in the end in the end it’s alright, we love each other and that’s enough, we know we love and are loved and that’s enough.

Hands clasped over heart, chest rising with gasping breaths, falls, rises. Heart beating inside chest, pulse beating through body, blood, red red life. Only breath. Only blood. Beating, in silence, in black space.

Through all the pain and loss of this world through all your cruelties and misguided deeds, regrets and misspoken words, there is this,

love

and that’s enough.

It will be enough.

In the end is only grief, wild and terrible grief, it will break you apart and it is love, it is only love, wild and terrible love, it will be alright in the end, just remember this pain is only love, the only pain is love, the grief life has for life


I am still, breathing, pulsing.

Still breathing, pulsing. I am.

Still.

Breathing.

Slow.

I am falling,

up; flying up, into cool crisp air into the big blue, until I no longer am, up into the big blue into the night, streaming white stars flow from endless space into me, I am endless space rippling with streaming white stars, faster now faster, up into ruby red space, out and up and beyond, space and starlight dropping away from… from… I… away from… I…

and I vanish, and you vanish, we vanish, and this and that vanish, and words and the shapes around words vanish, and suspended outside time all that is left is the infinity of the universe


Until, again, I am falling

Falling, swift and gentle back into me, finally, white streaming stars become crisp streams of water flowing back into me, making me me again; breathing, pulsing. Gasping.

On the shore.

Lapped by warm clear waves.


We never stop falling; graceful and slow

through sacred silent space.